People, Women, and Opportunity

I like to observe things, especially people. Variety of people make the USA a very unique and stand out from the other known countries, like the UK and Russia. However, I also like to take mental notes of how people interact with one another. Their interactions are just fascinating. Fascinating because their encounters are impromptu and you never know what kind of reaction they will make. I think observing is essential in getting to know a person better. You have to be careful though. Some might consider you a weirdo, which i have been called before. I bring up people because I have met quite a few of them. When I think of people, I also think of women. Yes, ladies and gents. I am a guy and I am VERY interested in the opposite sex. The hormones are ferociously raging and my parience is dwindling. Like many men, I ask the age old question, "What makes a woman tick?" This question might sound simple, yet the question is complicated and difficult to comprehend.


So, what is the million dollar answer to the question? I do not know. If I have the answer, I would be an instant millionaire right now. When we grow up through adolesence, we guys are taught by our loving, sometimes nagging, mothers to treat women with kindness, respect, and diginity. I love these qualities, but to most women, these qualities draw up a "wussy" flag. What is a wussy you ask? A wussy is a guy that will do ANYTHING for their particular love interest, according to Date Expert, David DeAngelo. Whether they are compliments, buying candy/gifts, or being a total kiss ass to them, a wussy use these tactics to gain attention. I, unfortnately, fit into this category. I have the good guy disease. I am "Everyone's Best Friend". It is a curse, but a blessing at the same time. I understand the modern woman wants adventure, mystery, and excitement. These qualities help generate attraction between the male and the female. But this is where I have a beef. Okay, over the years, I have heard complaints from hot women about how their boyfriends treat them like total crap. They ask, 'Why are there not any nice guys in the world?' I think I have an answer. The reason hot, attractive women are almost inferior to nice guys because it is a shock. The women simply do not know how react, similar to when a guy sees a hot girl. That shock deters them away from the nice guy. So, out of apprehension, she pushes the nice guy away. I have seen and been in this situation before. Another reason might be the woman has been accustomed to the rude treatment. Her self-esteem has reached rock-bottom levels that it is the ONLY behavior that she derserves. The third reason might be she does not know what she wants from a guy. Well, ladies, nice guys cannot be in limbo forever! Like I said, women are complicated and sophisicated creatures. It can be frustrating, but I enjoy the challenge. I enjoy figuring out how a woman simply how reacts around people. If I wrong about my assumptions, so be it. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Let me talk about the other side of the coin. What about the "unattractive, ugly" women? I blame the media for bringing up this question. In today's society, looks make the world all the difference. Physical attractiveness is what most guys see in a woman. When they see a hot girl, they pounce. And, most times, they want to "hit that". I do not agree with this, but it is true. Do you find unattractive, ugly women on television? Almost never. But, what do you call unattractive? Unattractive, to me, is a woman who does not appreciate your company, almost taking you for granted. Unattractive women do not appreciate your thoughts and compliments. They might feel you are using these as a crutch because you are not physically attractive to her. Lastly, unattractive women do not make you feel good about yourself. In a coversation or in a relationship, the man and the woman should feel good about each other. If they do not feel good, both are just wasting precious time.

I have had my fair chances with women. The chances failed because of my apprehension of rejection. I hate rejection. Rejection hurts like dislocating a joint. Each time, it hurts more and pain is intense. Here is the irony. I have never tasted rejection. I have played the "What If?" card and it decided for me. I did not pounce on the opportunities and regret on those chances. I let fear get the best of me. I did not let my heart do the work. I always feared of what other people might have thought, especially my family. The immediate family does not judge, but outside of it, they judge often. If I dated an African American, for example, I would have been shunned from the family. They are very judgmental, materalistic, and it is simply not right. Now, I do not give a flying fly of what they think. I wished I seen this sooner. When I see couples holding hands, I feel resentment towards myself; all simply because I did not take the risk. Here is a word of advice: If you feel that special spiritual connection within one another, do NOT let it get away!

I have learned that it is quite alright if you cannot find that special someone just yet. There is someone for everyone. It might be today, tomorrow, or a few years from now. You will never know if you just keep trying. However, do not make it a lifelong quest. First thing first is to establish yourself and find your place in this world. The world is cruel, unusual, and sometimes outrageous. 9 times out of 10 people will accept you for you. If they do not, do not sweat it! The opportunity will come, opportunity will come.